Being black might have been seen as a limitation, but when born into certain places you would realize that being black, is just the starting point of your problems. it comes as constant worry, that most female children are seen as rape victims, and other forms of disrespect , even if the country is developing some areas like their mind-set seem to be lagging behind.
The female psychology have been so greatly manipulated that they see themselves as mere “kitchen tools”, or “baby breeding machines”. Well, you cannot blame them as they have gone through many things that have destroyed their self-respect, making them go for the scrap. Those who have been considered as money milking machines might actually even seem great since you are considered as something worth money. In most eastern part of the country, the female child is not seen as a child at all, the family only fully celebrates when the male child is finally born, because to the male figure head – a heir of the family has arrived and there is no need for worry. The females are only there to get married so that their parents can collect their bride price.
Most female children, highly applied in the northern part of Nigeria, are betrothed to men – men old enough to be their grandfather – whilst still young, without allowing the child to grow, fall in love or give a consensus to whatever relationship she is into; therefore she would be forced to grow and fall in love with some stranger. This has been going on the country for centuries and most times it seems that nobody cares, leading the children to become withdrawn, accepting whatever fate lies ahead of them.
Going to school would have been a good improvement if the world itself did not see the female sex as incapable of pursuing some select dreams. The world seems to favour the male irrespective. So what is the problem here? Our problem is that the norms and culture that seem to guide us, have subdued one sex and upheld the other. Yes, we know that this norms and culture made us what we are today, but truthfully, what are we today?… but a country on a verge of failing, because seemingly only the rich are heard and the poor are not; this is the same as the case of females, who are not put into consideration because to them they are the “weaker vessel”. It should not be seen as news that even in the family, when there is a male child, his thoughts are supreme.
We are quite happy now that as the world is developing, most women have been allowed to work and not be full house wives as opposed to before. It is characteristically true that when girls are growing up, most girls were taught to cook and that their main job is to have a family and be a good wife – Only few families thought their daughters that there was more to life than that. That is why, when they go out, they most times are left there in the wild – clueless.
Someone might say these are just blatant excuses , but the truth remains, the female sex is being oppressed and limited, and nothing seems to be effectively working to curb it.
Ude Ucha Kalu,
College of Medicine,
University of Lagos,